Sunday, October 6, 2013

Relationships with Guys {Part 2}

So, last week we talked about how making Jesus #1 in your life will help you in other areas of your life – especially guy friendships!

This week, we're going to talk about one of my favorite things to do - Making friends!

Making girlfriends, that is.

2. Create a group of Girlfriends.

I cannot stress enough about the importance of having girlfriends.

You need girls in your life that will build you up, encourage you in your walk with Christ, and will call you out if you're headed down the wrong path.

I love this quote from a book titled, Every Teen Girl's Little Pink Book on Girlfriends.


"Time passes. Life happens. Distance separates. Children grow up. Jobs come and go.
 Parents die. Colleagues forget favors. Careers end. 

But...

Girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles between you. 

A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach. 

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end. 

Sometimes they will even break the rules and walk beside you–or come in and carry you out." 

{Author Unknown.}



Guy friends can't offer you the same support girlfriends can give you. 

That's why having girlfriends is so important - they can speak your language.


Girlfriends understand what you're walking through as they can identify with the emotions that you're feeling.

– They will give you advice that points to Christ.

– They will help you fight a battle you are currently facing.

– They will encourage you to do greater things for the glory of God.

– They will lovingly steer you in the right direction when you're headed towards destruction.


Guy friends can't understand you.

Why?

Because guys don't have a female mind. And, as a result, they feel awkward.

Yes, the guys in your life will try to help you. But, honestly, it's just not appropriate to pour your heart out to a guy who is only your friend.

Think about it.

Would you want your guy friend sharing his heart with you? Or would you want him sharing it with his guy friends?

I would want my guy friends to share their hearts with the guys God has placed in their life, not me.

You can still have meaningful conversations with guys, but just not as deep as when you're talking to your girlfriends.

My challenge to you this week is to look for ways to encourage & cultivate friendships with the girls God has placed in your life!

And, if you are having trouble finding God-honoring girlfriends, ask the LORD to bring girls into your life that honor Him and encourage you in your walk with Christ!

He is more than willing to answer that prayer!

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Do you currently have girlfriends in your life? If so, how do they encourage you? How do you encourage them?

I'll be back next week for the last installment in this series! {Part 3}


{Side Note: I HIGHLY recommend that book I quoted from earlier in the post. It's so helpful as it teaches not only how to make girlfriends, but how to be a good girlfriend.}

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